Better Loving: Which Archetype Will You Use Today?

Tantric Sex

The ancient Tantric texts made the point that both men and women could exchange energy during sex – and that this energy would nurture both partners. You may think this is a strange idea – after all, isn’t sex just about physical pleasure? No, it’s also about spiritual connection, and about the ability to exchange energy in more than one way (i.e. not just through the union of penis in vagina and the energy of ejaculation).

Can we prove the reality of this sexual experience? The answer is yes – you can manipulate your chi or Kundalini energy so that it flows into and through your own body and that of your partner during sex. And here’s how….

The tongue is a vital part of the mechanism or keeping energy flowing through the body. Some of the earlier exercises describe this. If you place your tongue against the roof of your mouth, it will complete the circuit so that energy flows through you in a loop: for men, around the body, up the back and down the front of the body. For women, up the belly and down the back.

At the union point of penis in vagina the energy will flow through you into the other’s body. If the man visualizes the energy flow out of his penis and into his partner’s vagina – for example, imagine a glowing bolt of blue energy leaving the head of your penis and flowing into your partner’s vagina – you can experience the exchange of energy directly. But there are other ways of exchanging energy, which involve the tongue.

You can really experience energy exchange when kissing. To be a good kisser is not only a romantic act, but an aid to the psychic process whereby you exchange energy – and you can consciously feel this process.

You’ll want to devote a lot of time to the art of conscious kissing by which we mean putting your whole attention onto the act of kissing, rather as though you were making love but doing it with full awareness and attention. You can nibble, suck, lick, explore each other’s mouths and even lick your lover’s face.

You can suck your lover’s tongue, and as you do so you can imagine energy flow between you both at the level of your mouths. It’s also recommended that you try sucking each other’s fingers – which you will want to make sure are well-washed beforehand – so that you extend your sexual experience in many different ways.

Take this in turns – have your partner suck your thumb then try sucking your partner’s: see how erotic you find it as he or she explores the different areas of your hand between your fingers with their tongue or mouth.

Once you’ve developed a sense of how exciting or arousing you find the exploration of your body and your partner’s body with your mouth and tongue, you can move on to the next stage of the experience – which is to explore your partner’s skin with your tongue.

You can explore the whole of your partner’s body – it’s an intimate experience, and you can get to know the body of your lover very much better, in addition to finding out more about what turns them on.

You can locate the erogenous zones that make sex much more pleasurable for them – these may include elbows, toes, armpits, bottom of the feet, thighs, back, and many other places which at the moment you don’t even know about.

Archetypes and sex

Now all of these seemingly very odd experiences during sex have their rots n some ancient practices. Tantra is very old; the concept of the archetype is even older. Archetypal energies woudl have been recognised by many cultures before ours; we have, perhaps, refined the explanation of archetypes into a modern day language. Here’s a summary (off site link). And here’s a book which can help you understand these energies. It’s a a classic written in the 1990s. This is the modern day version..

Of course, we don’t need an archetypal explanation for everything that happens during sex. Sometimes Tantra alone will enhance our enjoyment and understanding. Accordint to Tnatra, some of the areas which your partner may find it exciting to have licked during sex will already be known to you – nipples, navel, ears, forehead, genitals and so on. And you can achieve more interesting results if you do all this with your full attention on what you are doing, not distractedly.

You can even imagine sexual energy – Lover energy if you prefer –¬† flowing up from your pelvic region and out through your tongue into your lover’s body. More specifically, if you are a man, imagine it flowing from your anus and your testes, up through your penis and out through your tongue.

If you are a woman, imagine this sexual energy flowing up from your vagina and up through your breast to your tongue, then leaving your tongue and entering your partner’s body.

Make sure you visualize energy flow from your tongue in whatever way seems appropriate – a lightning bolt of energy, or as tiny sparks. You may well find that your partner really does respond as if they have received a jolt of energy.

The ultimate skill here is to bring your lover to orgasm using only your lips and tongue, all the while imagining the energy flowing out from your tongue and lips into their genitals and anywhere else you touch them on the body with your mouth.

You can start the process by kissing passionately but with feeling, using full awareness of your energy flow and visualizing the energy moving between you and your partner in whatever way seems most appropriate. The Lover and King connect in a dramatic and beautiful energy flow as you do this.

When you bring your partner to orgasm, close your eyes and see if you have any awareness of the energy flowing between you. For example, you may particularly feel or perceive the energy moving up your spine or around your chakras – especially your brow chakra.

This is a reflection of Kundalini energy moving up your spine from your genitals. You may also like to pay attention to the tip of your tongue when you bring your partner to orgasm. You may be able to feel an upswelling of energy there. Studying archetypal energy and applying your knowledge can be a great way to boost your sexual pleasure and capacity to relax.

Should you wish to learn more about the archetypes, and how they relate to energy flow, try this website.